I write this just because it is something I have never understood. I was terribly fat myself. I dressed in big clothes and pretended that a roll of fat didn’t count if it weren’t seen. The hardest thing I had to do was be naked and relaxed around some girl I liked. But it is so important: If you want others to treat you as though fat is irrelevant, you have to live that way yourself. When a spa equals fear of exposure, it is the FEAR that is disruptive. NOT A PERSON’S LOOKS.

I know so many fat girls who I would date in a heartbeat. There is one who is a dancer…she parties all night long on the dance floor. I would LOVE for her to dance late into the night for me, just us…but she can’t. It’s not that she’s fat. It’s that she can’t accept that she’s attractive anyway.

When a girl stands up and says I am fat and proud, and then either 1) hides her body or 2) dances naked for you but with an arrogant attitude of, “you’d better accept me of else…”, it is such a turn-off. Neither option is really fat and proud.

I like girls who are smart, confident, and playful. Looks are irrelevant. If only girls could have faith in this occasionally, and just pretend that a guy is really turned on by her. Because there are many guys out there who would feel that way if given the chance.